How many times have you been called something other than your name? Have you been called worthless, fat, ugly, or possibly told you are not smart enough, not pretty enough or “JUST NOT ENOUGH?” So have I, but what I want you to know today is that you eventually become what you are called. If you accept it and answer to it, you are allowing yourself to become that instead of believing what God calls you. Never answer to the negative voices in your head or the negative persons in your life. You are better than that, but you have to believe it for yourself.
Maria Bogdanos who wrote the article, Signs of Emotional Abuse for Psych Central.com states that, “It can cripple all we are meant to be as we allow something untrue to define us.” If we continue to allow someone to speak negatively into our lives on a consistent basis, you will begin to believe what they are saying. It will begin to play in your head on repeat.
Growing up, I was called so many things, that I would just answer, due to not knowing any better or not knowing my identity. I was told by family members and acquaintances that I would be good for nothing but laying on my back and I was ugly. Those things along with others shaped me in such a way that I believed them. You see, I already did not know what love look like, so I accepted any and every negative thing spoken to me. Please don’t follow in my mistake and accept any negativity in your life.
In Ephesians 2:10 it says,”For we are his workmanship, having been created in Christ Jesus for good works that God prepared beforehand so we may do them .” To me, this says that God created us and we are absolutely, unequivocally, amazing and gifted! Keep saying that statement out loud over and over until you get it. We are all beautiful humans which God created. God made us in his image and he does all things well, which includes you and I. Just like pets, people teach us to be mean and hateful, that is not how we entered the world. God sees every bit of beauty and goodness in you. When others don’t see your beauty, it is because they are blind of their own beauty. God does not make mistakes and you were not a mistake. You are a true masterpiece, like the Sistine Chapel painted by Michelangelo.
You were created to be uniquely different in every way. You are the only one with your fingerprints. Your smile, your eyes, your hair, your intelligence, your character, your integrity, your height, and your weight, along with other aspects of your makeup, define how wonderful you are. Take a look in the mirror and study yourself. Really, really take a look at yourself. Study every feature and journal about your likes and dislikes about them. In journaling about your dislikes, I want you to be able to look back and see your growth and love for self. I desire for you to notice every mole, every bump, and every scar. They are all forever a part of you, so embrace them.
Last but definitely not least, if you make the decision to change something someone dislikes about you, change it, because you want to, not because of them. If they complain about any part of you, they don’t love you completely. If you have an issue with your weight, you change it. Consult a nutritionist or a personal trainer to assist you. When someone loves you, they take you just as you are and love on you.
So, the next time someone calls you ugly, reintroduce and say, “Hello, my name is beautiful!” or when someone tells you that you are not good enough, reintroduce yourself by saying, “Hello, I am enough,actually, I am more than enough!” You get the picture. My challenge to you is to see who God created you be and be that valuable, beautiful person. The next time someone calls you out of your name, reintroduce yourself to them. Hello,my name is Retta Timmons and I am a gifted, talented, beautiful, funny and amazing child of God.